One of the books I am reading right now is titled "Life's Healing Choices." I think most of us would agree that some choices are healthy and some are not. What may not be as obvious is that sometimes choices that are unhealthy today (or at least seem unhealthy) can also be healing choices. Some choices are simple to categorize - staying away from addiction triggers is both healthy AND healing, having a designated driver is a healthy choice, attending recovery sessions is a healing choice.
Some of my choices need to be forever - staying off social media/websites. avoiding explicit material. Other choices might be for a season or until I am in a different place emotionally/spiritually. The tricky part comes when someone suggests that a choice you saw as dangerous is actually necessary for healing. This is the case when we get to the place in the program that we start looking to make amends with people whom we have harmed (or have harmed us). This is a place where it is impossible to proceed without a partner. We are simply too close to the pain and sorrow to make balanced, accurate, healthy judgments as to who/when/how to make amends.
Contacting and/or confronting (in love) the people that have been an integral part of the pain and damage in our lives is at best scary and risky. If done wrongly (wrong time, wrong words, wrong heart, wrong expectations), we can end up causing more and deeper hurts. We, as wounded people, tend to either approach this too hesitantly and avoid actually accomplishing anything or we proceed too aggressively and lash out instead (which also makes things worse).
Right now I am searching for a new sponsor/mentor who can guide me through these next several steps in the program. Until that happens I continue to review the first for steps of the program. If you would take the time to pray about this, I would be grateful.
Have a blessed day
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